Years Resolution...Friend or Foe?
you open up this months issue youre probably saying, Oh
no, not another article on how to keep new years resolutions!?
Well...yes, uh-huh, yep, thats what it is, another article on
how to keep New Years resolutions. Heres the twist, dont
make them if youre going to break them. Stop torturing yourself!
Who came up with the bright idea of making resolutions at the beginning of each year? According to some, the tradition dates back to 153 B.C. when the Romans put Janus, the god of beginnings and the guardian of doors and entrances, at the head of the calendar; hence our month of January. Janus had two faces and could look to the future and to the past simultaneously. Overtime he became the ancient symbol for resolutions.
new year approaches, we are doing just that...looking back at all that
has happened, and looking forward to what there is yet to be. The new
year can feel like opening a brand new journal, nothing is written on
the pages. The paper is crisp, pristine, begging you to put pen to paper.
And here we are, just coming off a very joyous, hectic, high activity season. Our bodies and our minds are eager for some down time. We may be thinking of things we wish we could have handled differently. And here is this wonderful new year begging us to tell it what we want to do, what we want our life to be like.
How can we not make resolutions?
youre going to make them, they should at least be SMART: simple,
measurable, attainable, reasonable, and timely.
Have a fun and fulfilling New Year!
Up! Are You Ready To Take On a New Challenge?
Heres the truth that we discover when we decide to stop telling ourselves fairytales about the problems that occur in our lives.
Despite what we have conned ourselves into believing, the majority of our problems are optional. Most of our existing problems dont just happen, arent randomly selective of us and tend to be reoccurring.
The difference between a problem that selects us and a problem that we select to have is that the problems that select us can usually be classified under the heading of an act of God. Problems that fall under such a heading would be; wind storms of all kinds, snow storms, floods, power outages and accidents, illnesses that occur in spite of the fact that we have done everything possible to take good and diligent care of our health.
Nearly all of the problems we have do not fall under the heading of an act of God. Most human problems, small or large, are self selected.
selecting to have a problem when you notice the little red light on
your dash board blinking but you choose to ignore or postpone taking
the car into the shop and getting it checked out, tuned up or given
an oil change. You may act as surprised and upset as you choose when
your car stalls out on the highway in rush hour traffic. You can list
all the excuses that you like for not having dealt with the car issue
while it was merely an inconvenience, but it wont change the fact
that now you have a problem.
If we postpone balancing our checkbooks because we are too tired or just dont feel like doing it and we have inadvertently made a calculation error, when checks begin doing the bouncing Tigger dance, we know inside of us that we could have saved ourselves the now costly problem.
While we are spending beyond our means, we know that inevitably the bill will come due and that we are selecting a future stress problem for ourselves.
When we have a twinge of occasional discomfort in our left, lower molar but we ignore it until we wake up and the entire left side of our face is swollen, deep down we know we could have saved ourselves a very painful problem.
We are aware that when we repeatedly postpone the nurturing of our most vital relationships that eventually problems of resentment or even estrangement will arise.
little challenges and inconveniences to grow into upsetting and unnecessary
problems everyday. Then, in order to escape the problems we've created,
we consider making huge changes in our lives. Perhaps a career change,
new friends, a move to a different state, the purchase of a new home
or car or even a new spouse.
The first step in preparing ourselves to take on new goals and the bigger challenges that will undoubtedly come with them is to make certain that we can proficiently deal with the challenges we have now. We need to be certain that we are able do so consistently and before all our current, inconvenient, little challenges have the opportunity to grow up to be big problems.
Are you ready to take that first step toward becoming virtually problem free and therefore prepared for bigger challenges and opportunities in your life?
You Trying to Lose?
Just 2 nights ago my partner and I were watching a cricket game from Zimbabwe on cable. The team that was currently batting was leading by a huge margin in the 1st innings but during the 2nd innings were dropping out like flies. They were struggling to maintain their score and beat their opponents.
My partner looked at me and said in disgust "What are they doing, trying to lose?"
I looked over at him and thought to myself, "Wow! You're so right".
In an instant he had clinched many of our problems from a simple game, while several of us struggle to reach the pinnacle and fall short of our dreams.
Isn't it amazing that sometimes no matter how hard we try, it seems that we're always trying to lose instead of striving to win? It's like reaching a weight loss plateau and having no idea how we're going to get rid of those last 5 lbs.
you've experienced this or know someone who has, for example, can't
seem to earn more than a certain amount of money, who can't seem to
lose more than a certain amount of weight, who can't seem to pass an
important exam no matter how many times they've taken it.
trying to succeed and do the best we can but something is holding us
allow me let you into a little secret about ourselves, if it's okay
Our minds are so conditioned to understand, accept and appreciate only what we know.
that we earn a certain amount each year and no more. It knows that we
can lose a certain amount of weight and no more. It knows that we can
attain a certain level of success and prosperity and no more.
point is reached, unconsciously we tend to sabotage our early success
and stop ourselves in our tracks from achieving more. This is Internal
Resistance. It's these Resistance thoughts that stop you from doing
what you want and can often show up as procrastination.
and up to that point of resistance we begin to have thoughts such as:
"I can't do this". "I'm not going to earn any more than
this no matter how hard I work". "This will never happen".
"I'm not yet ready for this".
That is not to say that we don't want or desire more. On the contrary we do!
are we going to do about getting everything that we desire? How are
we going to attract more than we're programmed to?
to re-condition our minds to accept more prosperity and more abundance
and therefore open ourselves up to receiving more than we're accustomed
readily be done by accepting that your life CAN be as fulfilling, as
rich and as prosperous as you desire. Realizing that you can have whatever
a journal. We'll call it your Prosperity Journal. Each day before bedtime,
start appreciating the good things that occurs in your life. Doing this
will open your whole being to attracting more. Be grateful for all things
that you do, that happens to you and that exist every day-both large
and small. It could be the sunshine or the rain, your family, your job,
begin to focus on being grateful, more of the same good shows up in
your life. As more begins to show up in your life, you understand that
you can focus on what you want and attract it. As you begin to focus
on what you want, that as well will show up with much less resistance
and struggle on your part.
As you expand your mind you expand your possibilities. You will come to understand that everything is available to you in absolute abundance. It is only for you to allow it to come into your life without resisting. You will come to understand that the Universe is limitless and full of abundance and that instead of trying to lose, you will master the process of winning!
Available Workshop: Making Timely Choices
help men and women who are trying to be all things to all people, and
falling a little short...in their own eyes...Ive developed the
Making Timely Choices workshop.
is in a group coaching format and takes place over the phone...helping
ease the stress of fitting in not only time for the workshop but also
time for getting there and back. And you can come to the workshop just
as you are...bunny slippers and all.
In case youre unfamiliar with group coaching, it can be defined as coaching that takes place with two or more people simultaneously. A benefit of group coaching (vs. one-on-one coaching) is the synergy thats created which often produces outcomes greater than what each individual might produce. As your coach, I will at times deliver specific information or resources which I believe will be of benefit to everyone in the group. This might be a short (e.g., 5 minute) talk on a particular topic. Most often, I will encourage the group to bring issues to the table that we can discuss.
We will meet for 4 one-hour sessions. Between sessions I will be available by e-mail or by phone (for short 5 minute calls), whenever you need me. I will also meet with each participant once for a 45 minute one-on-one session to discuss issues specific to that person.
this workshop we will cover 4 main topics:
DEVELOPING EFFECTIVE PLANS
The workshop fee varies based on the number of participants, so encourage your friends to join you.
If youre interested, click on the link below to send me an e-mail. Please put Group Coaching Workshop in the subject line.
Remember, you CAN have the life you want.
Another artist whose work I love is Diane Romanello. Youll see some of her work on other pages of my website. To visit her gallery and purchase her work go to her website: www.dianeromanello.com.
My thanks to Lynn and Diane for allowing me to use their art on my website.